All throughout our lives we’re learning, it’s a constant process. We learn not to chase a skunk, even if we think we’re faster than it. We learn not to eat a can of spinach without draining the juice, even if that’s not the way Popeye does it. We learn not to carve an obscene poem into the table at school, because you can’t erase that stuff… and covering it with your hands will only increase your teachers suspicions. (Okay, we might have learned different lessons growing up but in my defense I was faster than the skunk… I just tripped.)
It doesn’t matter who you are, you’re in a constant state of evolution, and one of the main catalysts in this process are our parents. They mold us and teach us valuable lessons that we take with us on the journey of life. Then something happens, we get a little older, we get a little wiser, and we start to see that our parents aren’t perfect. We all come to this realization sooner or later, the realization for me came in the form of my parents relationship. They had come down to visit me and I could tell from the jump that things weren’t right. There was a whole lot of fighting, they seemed cold to each other. I always had this perfect image of family in my own head, and this trip was setting a match to that picture.
After numerous discussions and some frank revelations, it became apparent to me that my parents drew a closer resemblance to a pair of disgruntled roommates than two people in a loving relationship. This was a shock to me and definitely played a minor role in me breaking up with my girlfriend at the time. (I’m not blaming them clearly I made the decisions) That being said I’d be lying if I said it wasn’t playing a major role in my decision to be single right now. You see I don’t want to make the same mistake my parents made. I’m being very choosy with my next partner because as stated in previous post I’m looking for someone to be my best friend. I’m going to do everything in my power to ensure that whomever I marry is someone who truly understands me. I don’t want to wake up in 30 years with the feeling like I’m trapped or the person I’m with doesn’t understand me. It’s the most important lesson I learned from my parents, I want better for myself.
And that’s just it… maybe the greatest lesson my parents ever taught me was a lesson they gave me inadvertently.