Is there ever a good time to move in on a friend/acquaintances significant other? Time has passed, they’re no longer together… can you make a move? I think you have to break it down into two categories because sometimes I think the answer can be YES and other times the clear answer is… If you even entertain the idea of dating my ex I’m going to stick you 47 times with whatever sharp object I have at my disposal.
So I submit my two criteria for making a move on the ex of someone you know…
Did they move away?? Are they in a city only a couple of hours away?? Next State/Province over?? Did they move to China? It’s pretty hard but I think a general rule of thumb should be if they live in the same city, then their ex is probably off-limits if you know the person decently well. If they’ve moved away to another continent maybe you could consider it, but again it comes down to how well you know the person. (This is harder than I anticipated)
If you at any time or another considered the person to be a “best friend”, you can’t by any stretch of the imagination go for their ex. By considering them close you have at one point or another had a heart to heart about their significant other. So if you go for that person you’re essentially playing with fire because the reaction of your friend could be volatile.
Okay, now that I’m writing this I realize words aren’t going to do a good job in getting my point across. So I’m going to give it the old college try…
- How long was their relationship?
- Was it a bad break up? (Gotta side with your friend if it was)
- Imagine George Clooney going after Jennifer Aniston (Actually if anyone could pull that off… It’s George)
- Did you give enough buffer time?
- Is it over? (some relationship carry on forever)
All in all I think sometimes things happen, sometimes significant others end up with someone we know or friends. If you were scheming and plotting to get to that point and make your move, then you belong on Big Brother because you’re a devious devil with no soul. If you just started kicking it, something grew, and all the stars aligned… there’s nothing wrong with that.
I think it’s to hard to give a definite yes or no in this situation, I do think as long as you’re considerate and listen to the voice in your head… you’ll be fine.