I looked at my fridge this weekend and realized it’s wedding season! (My fridge is littered with either “wedding invitations” or “thanks for sharing our special day” cards) I’m going to level with you guys, I love weddings! I love to put on my finest linens, drink, and dance up a storm. Throw in 75 – 150 of your closest friends, your own personal DJ and a couple of parents who know how to have a good time. What’s not to love about that? I can’t wait for my own wedding because I love to throw a party, so my wedding in a word will be EPIC! (I once made a Movie Trailer for my birthday party, you couldn’t watch it and not want to drink)
Recently though I’ve been getting the wedding blues and weddings seem to be turning into that proverbial large bowl of ice cream. (You eat it and it’s so good but then you feel terrible after) In the last 2 years I’ve been to six weddings, I have three more this summer and already two for next year. I’ll admit some of it is born out of jealousy because I want what they all have. I want the celebration, the emotion, and most of all the suitable companion. That coupled with the recent “have you met anyone” talk my folks decided to lay on me when I went home last. I always end up feeling a little extra pressure to meet someone after every wedding I attend. So I think 2010 is the year to revisit my approach to weddings.
TJ’s guide to weddings so far has been…
1) Scope out hotties at the ceremony
2) Drink a little… then a lot
3) Impress hotties with mad dance skills
4) Drink more
5) Make out with someone I don’t know (NOT initial hottie I was scoping)
6) Start sobering up, realize I’m about to make a huge mistake and head home…
Sometimes you can substitute 5/6 for “pass out under a table/almost get arrested”. (It’s a long story but seriously who calls the cops when a 6’3” black man is banging on their door? Wait!! Don’t answer that…)
Clearly you can see why I haven’t met anyone at a wedding. Step two usually happens sometime between the ceremony and the reception slide show. So I’ve been thinking it’s time to going to change the game, “flip the script” as all the cool kids say.
#1: Drink a lot less than I have in the past. It won’t be any less of a celebration if I tone it down a touch, plus then I don’t have to walk back to the reception hall in my suit and tie looking like I came off the set of “The Hangover” because I lost my keys. (Longest and hottest walk of my life)
#2: Drop all this self-imposed pressure of meeting someone at a wedding and just have fun. I tend to get lost in all the scoping of chicks that I miss out on key points in the night.
Hopefully with a change in approach I’ll have a change in outcome… Wish me luck as I get ready to bust out my bow tie and hit the wedding circuit.
Countdown: 2 weeks!!