Is it possible for men and women to exist merely as friends? Can we really have platonic relationships? Can we share our fears and dreams with someone without getting emotionally attached? If you have a connection with someone and it’s strictly platonic, what happens to them when you start dating someone? How do you juggle your platonic friend and your love interest without stepping on any bodies toes?
I’ve never been a big “friend” person when it comes to the opposite sex, typically I find it always leads to confusion. Although recently in the past year I’ve developed a couple unique female friendships. Don’t get me wrong I love to kick it with my boys, but every now and then spending time with the opposite sex is a necessity. So now that I’ve cultivated these great relationships, what do I do when I eventually meet someone? We’ve all contemplated dating a platonic friend, we’ve wondered if they were a match in all the right areas. (Mentally, Emotionally, Physically, and Sexually) And lets be honest in every guy/girl relationship, one party has always had a thing for the other. I find the most common platonic friendships are when you connect on 2 out of the 4. (Mentally & Emotionally) It’s that opposite sex friend you have that “just gets you”. If you connect on 3 of the 4, things can get a little hairy and you’ll tend to flounder between being “platonic friends” and “friends that kiss/fool around from time to time”. If you connected on 4 of 4 you’d be dating.
Again, I’ve never been the kind of guy that is 100% okay with a girl I’m seeing hanging out with her platonic friend. Sure that train of thought is peppered with some of my own insecurities, but it’s mainly because I know how guys think. Sidebar: *Why is it that girls insist that their male friend is “just a friend” and nothing more… then as soon as there’s an opening, BAM! He’s in like sin!!* (I’ve seen that happen far too many times) Anyways I’ve always been the kind of guy that would rather the girl I was seeing did things with 1) Me 2) Her girlfriends 3) Me begrudgingly 4) Her guy friend. But just because I start seeing someone, it doesn’t mean I want them to cut off all interaction with their platonic friends. (I just want to be present)
I guess the cause of my hesitation is also the answer to my problem. Trust!!
If there’s trust then maybe there is room for some of that platonic bubonic friendship action!