Memo to all Men & Women: If they’re really, really into you… THEY WILL CALL!
For me there’s a nervous excitement that accompanies calling a girl I’m really into, and it’s that feeling that makes risking getting rejected worth it. I’ve played 21 questions (turned into 200+ questions) with a girl via Facebook email, and had text conversations well into the 100+ SMS range with others. Yet I never picked up the phone and called them, because I was never 100% into them.
The way I see it is everyone has a couple of numbers in their phone from the opposite sex, you know the ones you email/text when you need a quick ego boost or you’re bored. I more recently had two, when things were getting a little slow on the lady front I could always text these two and do a little teasing. Maybe make sure we were at the same place on a Friday night for some drunk flirting. Things were always great when we would text or meet in a drunken haze. Yet for some reason, the face to face interaction when sober was lacking something major. What was it?? I really wasn’t overly attracted to either of them. I was more attracted to the notion that someone was into me.
One day I got a text from one of them basically asking me what my deal was because she couldn’t figure me out. I could sense where this was going so I invited her over and told her “Any questions you have, ask away and I’ll answer honestly”. In the grilling session, we talked about relationships, our ex’s, marriage, even the type of people we see ourselves with. We talked about everything under the sun but the possibility of us. I wasn’t going to bring it up because to me it was a moot point, but had she broached the subject I would have answered honestly. It was a chemistry thing, she was cute but something about her caused me to be hesitant. So since the Q and A session we haven’t texted or emailed and it got me thinking I need to do a little house cleaning.
How many people do we string along because they make us feel good?? This is a cross gender question, because by no means does one sex do this more than the other. I’d venture to say we’ve all been guilty at some point or another. And let’s face it, it’s hard to break off those relationships because they make us feel good… and whoever is on the hook likes to hang out because of the possibility. We’ve all been on both sides of this equation to some degree. (Don’t kid yourself… you have)
So let’s cut ‘em loose, it’s time to put the “Release” into “Catch & Release”. Like I said earlier, I did some house cleaning and purged my phone of a couple of numbers because I know how it feels to be on the hook. I had a feeling I knew what those girls want from me, and I know for a fact I’m not willing to give them that. So it would be quite inconsiderate of me to string them along for my own personal emotional gain.
*I know it seems a tad conceited to be thinking that these girls are solely focused on me, and I know that’s probably not the case… but I’m not privy to the rest of their male interest