When is it wrong to flirt? If I know a girl has a boyfriend, should I stop flirting with her? What if she’s extremely attractive and she seems to be into me? (I might have had one to many and interpreted regular conversation as a little something more) Or maybe I was spot on?
This weekend I was at an event put on by a friend, and the alcohol had been flowing. I was having a good time and was rocking my favorite red scarf, I was feeling GREAT! In walks this women, she toed the line between beautiful and sexy. Her smile was mesmerizing, and her eyes made me feel like she was only focused on me. Throughout the early stages of the night we exchange glances and smiles, and I notice a guy always in her general vicinity. (I’m wondering if she has a boyfriend*) I make some inquires with a friend, and decided I need to talk to this woman. So I insert myself into the group and strike up a general conversation, strategically working my way beside her and eventually into a one on one conversation. We find out a lot about each other, we laugh… (she’s gorgeous) we share stories… (she’s gorgeous) Finally I bring up the whole “boyfriend/guy that’s been periodically checking in on our convo” There’s a trepidation in her voice, she doesn’t come right out and say it… but she clearly doesn’t deny that there is something going on between them. I’m perplexed… our convo trails off and ends on a good note.
Later on in the night her group of friends is sitting directly across from my group and we’re facing each other, but separated by a couple of rows of people. Our eyes meet and we exchange smiles and flirtatious glances… (She’s leaning back so her “boy-friend” can’t see her face) after couple minutes of this she gets up to go to the washroom. I wait the standard 2 minutes and follow. I luckily knew a girl standing in the general area you need to pass to get back to where we were sitting, so I strike up some small talk. As soon as “the new hotness” walks by on her way back to her seat. I drop my conversation like a bad habit and readjust my attention. We start chatting/flirting again and she laments about how it’s not fair, I get to be out here chatting up whoever I want and she’s stuck over in the boring corner. (Not her exact words, but that was the point that came across) I see that she is constantly looking at the second level of the bar, so I ask if it’s “okay” for her to be talking to me. She lets me know that she still has a little more time before she needs to be back at her seat. I decide to press again about her status, she says “we know too many mutual people for me to answer that question honestly” and then says “do I really need to answer that question” clearly hinting that I already know the answer. (So not only is she gorgeous, she apparently knows I have a soft spot for ambiguity) I ask for her number, and she said it’s proly a better if I email her. She enters her email address into my phone, and says “I hope you don’t stand me up”.
So I’ve decided I’m going to email her… and I’m going to be honest if there’s a small chance that I can swoop in and wow this girl. I’m putting on a full court press and throwing caution to the wind. That being said I still kind of feel bad, the guy that was floating around that night seemed nice enough. If I was him, I would have been like… “pump the breaks, this girl is taken”. So who is in the wrong? Is anyone wrong in this situation? Is this just two attractive people having an innocent night of flirting and nothing more? I have no clue!
*before we form an opinion on the “the new hotness”… we technically don’t know her status