So this morning I read a blog by TheEngagmentProject on the tables turning on dating, and how the dating world seems to be on its head. How girls’ are asking out guys and who the whole thing is messing up the dating ecosystem, it was actually kind of funny. (FYI – TheEngagmentProject is one of my new favorite blogs) But after putting a little more thought into it this morning I realized that dating hasn’t flip-flopped, it’s just an equal playing field. Social media has become the catalyst that guys needed to help alleviate some of the standard dating duties.
For example back in the day it was easy to point out Sleaze-ball McGee, Sleaze-ball McGee would hit on 10 girls at the bar over the course of a night before taking one home. Now Mr. McGee goes stealth mode and signs up to internet dating sites. He’s sent out 15 date request before lunch, and there’s no way for any unsuspecting woman to know that. (News flash… you’ve just been copy and pasted, 15 other girls got that exact same date request) He’s after one thing and all the girls he emails have no clue… so they email him back and think this guy seems genuine. FALSE! (I do realize that the odd time internet dating does work)
Or look at Match.com or eHarmony, guys don’t have to work at getting a girl anymore… no one does, because access is easy. I remember when you’d meet a girl through a friend of a friend, you know the cute girl who caught your eye at a party. You walked up and talked to her or maybe your friend’s friend put in a word and got you a number. Then you nervously called her and set up plans. Those days are far gone!! Now it’s… “What’s their name again?” As we type it in to Facebook and pull up photos, instantly judge him/her before we even meet them. Then we’ll text like inhumane lemmings rather than calling and get a true gauge of someone through the tone and pitch of their voice.
What happened to real interaction? We know too much about people before we see them face to face… I can tell you your favorite movie, your fears, where you’ve traveled, and even the next party you plan to attend before we meet for our first date. (How can it be a “chance meeting” if I know a girl I like is going to an event, and I go to the same event on purpose?)
So is the landscape of dating changing? You’re damn right it is… unfortunately we’re all losing! I try to fight it, but I’m just as hooked into the social networking machines as everyone else.
I’m still trying to be a gentleman, but chivalry is dying a slow and painful death… and social networking is its cancer.